Shame on You!
Raise your hand if you've been a victim of fat shaming? Keep your hand up if you've ever fat shamed another person. Fat shaming comes in many forms and can come from anyone even people you love. Fat shaming (not to be confused with body shaming) is simply making someone feel ashamed of their weight. Body shaming is (you guessed it) making someone feel ashamed of their body. Fat shaming and body shaming are basically the evil twin sisters that people constantly call upon when their ready to lazily tear others down.
There are many reasons people fat and body shame. One is to make themselves feel better. Another is to "help" the victim of said shaming. Believe it or not, there are people that believe fat and body shaming encourages people to lose weight and make healthier choices.
We all know about the internet trolls that talk sooo much trash in the comment sections. The ones that pretend to be doctors are the absolute worst. Their always giving off statistics as if they know someone's vitals just by looking at a picture. Those shamers are a little easier to deal with because you can simply block them. What about the shamers that you love?
How does someone you love fat shame you ask? It's simple. It's when you go shopping together and you point at sexy lingerie and make remarks about how beautiful it is. Their reply is something along the lines of "Ew, not on you sis. You need to drop a good 80 pounds before you can even look at that." Or maybe it's when you go out to eat and they say "Are you sure you want to get pizza? They have salad here too...you know?"
Fat shaming and body shaming has been around for ages. We just have a term for it now. It would be so easy for me to stand up on my soap box and preach to you about not letting others' words hurt you. But honestly, I can't do that. I can't do that because words can hurt and it's true when they say that hurt people, hurt people. If someone you love is shaming you, talk to them. Let them know how it makes you feel when they make remarks about your appearance or weight. Tell them that when you're ready to lose weight you will and if you need their help, you'll ask. If they truly love you and aren't being defensive they'll listen. If their intentions are to help you to become a healthier version of yourself they'll listen. Just remember this one last thing, people only treat you the way you allow them to treat you.
P.S
I hope your hand isn't still raised. If so you must have amazing uper body
strength.
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Credit : Chelsea Morris